How often have you heard schools, parents, social workers, and other professionals of the day, proclaim how hard it is today for teens? Believe it? Fall for that nonsense?
What’s freaky, is that reasoning is offered to kids for all kinds of behavior (by their parents and schools) before they even have to make up their own excuse for being self-absorbed, lazy belligerent babies.
I won’t argue that kids have demanding homework schedules; depending on the school it can be outright nuts. But kids today have Google, laptops, the magic of copy paste and the miracle of Wikipedia.
Any job evolves with the tools, and asking kids to have a bigger better report because they have Wikipedia and a mouse is not really that outlandish. We also expect more from Ford and Toyota than we did two / three generations ago. We know they have the tools so we demand the results.
We’ve created the ultimate generation of Me, by making life all about them, for them.
The latest Cannon camera commercial has Avril Lavine taking pictures. Of herself.
The average teen facebook account has a bucket load of pictures, the majority of which are of themselves.
A major Canadian Telco has commercials encouraging kids to all get together and collectively talk about their depression this February.
When was the last “teen call fest” for the kids that are alright? Kids don’t fit in, if they’re not all fucked up and on about themselves, and any self respecting human, at any age, will learn to “join em” if that’s what gets the attention.
Teens are dramatic, it has to be that way, most of what they face is still firsts. Teens fall in love for the first time, and they lose love for the first time. Most teens run headlong into big emotions for the first time AS teens. It’s natural to emote, but it’s parents job to equip them and help them cope when it all happens. Not to excuse them because their life is more stressful than those before them (who only had disease, World War II, Vietnam and Cambodia to deal with – pansies).
Is it possible we strongly state the hurdles (and skip pointing out the tools) out of guilt for creating them to begin with? Was the granite counter, stainless steel fridge and overpriced car really that important?
This constant excusing is not just aggravating to watch evolve within the kids, it’s leading us toward having to put up with a really self-interested group of leaders later. Imagine your Prime Minister or President, 30 years from now, whining on Twitter about how shitty bummer their day was, and fishing for compliments on their new policies.
And really, in the end, we are just excusing ourselves for letting this happen.